Are we in love or is it just the "attention"?

Of course every human being out there needs attention! The question is until what stage is it healthy? Do we just enjoy the attention or do we even get addicted to it? Many women know it, sometimes we tend to do things for this attention, which exceeds our own values and attitudes! We are self-conscious women who have a good profession, great friends and a well-working brain that tells us what we want and what strictly goes against our imaginations! So we are showing the world our strength from day to day and then? In a moment where nobody sees us we sit hours at home waiting for him to call! Maybe we do something beside, but we have to admit: Its not really productive! If we go to take a shower we OF COURSE take our cell with us, so just in case, if he calls we can jump out of the shower and pick up the phone no matter if our hands are wet and our hair is full of shampoo. There we are, the independet and strong women! For gods sake ladies, we dont need this! We have OUR own wishes, OUR own personality and our OWN life! so the question comes up: Why the hell do we turn into these little, insecure beings when it comes to men? Why do we put their needs before ours? Why are we 24/7 available for them, even if we are actually busy? Sometimes we can catch ourselves postponing appointments, because if he calls we might not be able to answer and calling back? No this we dont want to, we dont want to show him that he is so important to us that we ring him back. Isn't it ironic? If guys could observe us when we become these crazy obsessed creatures, they would probably run as fast as their feet can carry them! So lets get back to the topic: Is this kind of attention healthy? NO, definitely and obviously not! What happens deep inside of us when there is this new guy appearing on the surface, turning our world 180 degrees around. Lets see: Although we are getting older and (wiser) and we are sick of the game between men and women, we still play it! We always want the opposite from what we have! If he puts the world down to our feet and contacts us ten times a day, are we still that crazy about him? Mainly not! And if he tends to postpone our dates and calls hours later than promised, we become obsessed! What the hell is wrong with us? And if we are not even able to stop the game how can we be sure if we are in love or not?? If he lets us wait, there is nothing else we can think about, then he is on our mind all day long, but then when he calls says he misses us and wants to meet up as soon as possible we become bored or just lose interest in a way.Sooo how do we find out: Are we falling in love or are we just becoming this little insecure beings again, who crave for attention? Its probably more simple than we think. If it is really love or falling in love we do not even ask ourselves this question. All attention aside. If we develop true feelings for someone, it comes naturally and we are balanced, so if we crave for someones attention over weeks and are still not satisfied with the way he behaves toward us, forget about him! Some game in the beginning might be even fun and exciting but in the long run it destroys us, so we should run as long as we still can!