Emancipation...Yes!! or No???

Here we are again: Is emancipation a blessing or a curse?
How far does our sense for independecy go? For sure not until the cashier of the cinema, where our new boyfriend says: " Paying? Yes, seperately." If you are one of these girls who had to experience that on one of your first dates, am terribly sorry. I think at this point we wish it was 1900 again where guys helped us out of our coats and into our chairs. Did emancipation maybe scare the gentlemen away? Cruel imagination, isn't it? Seems like there is a price for everything. But back to the movies, symbolically at least. What do we expect from our loved one? Do we want him to pay for us and if yes for what? Everything or just some things? Or do we prefer to strictly share the costs? Gestures count thats for sure, and ladies: "Yes." It is definitely appropriate to let him pay the bill in the restaurant or the cab when you go somewhere together. Of course it depends as well on what each of you earns, but a man is supposed to be a man and show you that he values you. Maybe we are a little superficial or even naive to see this as an important indicator, if he cares about us. Call us traditional or whatever and yes if this is what it takes to stick to our opinion, then we are traditional with pleasure. For us it is always the package, how a guy wraps it for us. If he tells us: "Honey I am looking forward for the two of us cooking together tonight and enjoying each others company" or says: "I can not wait to sleep with you after we finally finish dinner." It definitely makes a difference.Which one do we prefer, if it is one of the first dates? Goes without saying doesn't it? Even if we end up sleeping with him, we like him to wrap his expectations like a gift. It might in the end be the same result, but still guys this is what we want, because as tough as we might seem, we like it a little bit romantic. Another thing: Imagine you spend a wonderful night with him in a hotel and afterwards he asks you to share the costs! You give yourself to that man, you probably sleep with him and wake up in his arms. So he should count himself lucky that he was in the position to spend a night with you, or? That is at least a healthy attitude towards ourself. And then kawoom all the magic is gone and you should pay for sleeping with him, although it should be the other way around? Of course its not about money, if you like him and he likes you, but what can we do, if these thoughts pop up in us when he wants to share the hotel bill? So what can we expect from the guy by our side? Or better, what should we expect? In the beginning there is no doubt! He should pay, which does not mean that we won't be offering him to share the bill when we eat out, but he should better not take it! That's a complete No-go. On the other hand, if you already spend some dates and he payed a lot of things, okay then we might be feeling fine about taking part in some of the further costly activies. To show him that we do not want to depend on him, but generally we enjoy it when the guy takes initiative when it comes to financial matters, that is just how it works and only because times changed and women have more rights, it does not mean that a man can rest on his laurels and not put efforts anymore..